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A divorce is likely to change every aspect of your life. However, you can take control of your life and use these changes to help with your own personal growth. Along the way, you are sure to face the call to indulge in bad behaviors from time to time. As you go through the divorce, be sure to avoid these tempting behaviors that can sabotage your best interests during a divorce.

While you avoid these temptations and focus on healing, make sure you have the guidance of a lawyer to help you handle the legal side of your divorce. That way, you can rest assured that you’re doing all you can to make this transition as smooth as possible.

Don’t Compare Your Divorce to Others' Break-Ups

It's only natural to want to see how others are handling their divorce. In fact, going to a support group for fellow divorcees can be very good for you. Just make sure you get support from the group and don't use it as an opportunity to compare your divorce with someone else's. Each situation is unique, and there is no one right way to do a divorce.

When you fall into the trap of comparing your divorce to others' divorces, you can make yourself unnecessarily feel bad. For example, someone else's divorce may look peaceful because they made a pact to keep all the conflict completely private. Someone else's children may seem to be thriving after a divorce when there are a lot of underlying issues. Comparing isn't helpful to anyone.

Don’t Turn to Social Media for Support

So many people flock to social media and willingly trade privacy for support and attention from the hundreds of people on their friends' list. When you go through a divorce, you may crave support like never before. What looks more appealing than social media when feelings like that creep up?
However, avoid sharing things about your divorce on social media. It's best to keep it completely off social media, if possible. If your divorce is less than amicable, your soon-to-be ex-spouse may use what you say on social media against you — ask your attorney for more information.
However, if you've shared parts of your marriage online, you may feel compelled to at least post a short and sweet post to announce the end of the union. If you do so, avoid saying anything negative about your ex and don't give the reasons for the divorce. Those who know you in real life can ask about it in person, and those who don't know you personally shouldn't get the privilege of knowing your private information anyway.

Don’t Keep Tabs on Your Partner

Not everyone gets divorced because they fall out of love. Sometimes it can just be impossible for two people to live together. If you still have feelings for an ex or simply feel possessive because of conflicting emotions, it can be extremely tempting to keep tabs on him or her. Some divorcing couples look up each other's partners on social media and do their best to keep up with their lives.
It's not worth all the emotional and mental energy that keeping tabs on your partner will demand. It can also stop you from moving forward with your new life, and staying too involved in an ex's life can create fantasies of the marriage being better than it was. When possible, let it go.

Don’t Assume Everything Will Resolve Itself

One common way of handling the conflict that's inherent in a divorce is to ignore it. Before true healing can take place during a divorce, emotional pain must be felt and processed.

The problems that come up in a divorce won't simply resolve themselves. If your children struggle with the pain of a divorce, therapy can help them face the pain and find healthy coping mechanisms.

Similarly, the legal aspects of your divorce won’t handle themselves. Make sure you keep in touch with your lawyer so everything is taken care of.

If you are facing a divorce in the Greenville area, contact William D. Fore, P.A. for help protecting your best interests during the divorce.



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